Comments on Hot Piece of Sass: What is Your Ex Saying About You?

I think we all have pockets of bad judgment in our...

2009-12-13T11:14:38.850-08:00

I think we all have pockets of bad judgment in our past...that could just be one of his. In most cases, guys bang anything that moves and may or may not look at the total package later. But I feel you...completely valid question you ask and sadly...there really is no suitable answer.

Go with your gut and remember everyone has an occa...

2009-11-28T15:20:08.570-08:00

Go with your gut and remember everyone has an occasional lapse in judgment.

You bring up such interesting points, especially a...

2009-11-28T12:23:33.062-08:00

You bring up such interesting points, especially about all the factors that come into play when we make opinions of people and things, but also how, even when someone becomes our boyfriend/girlfriend, we can still have the tendency (and natural interest) in their past. The past IS the past, but doesn't it say something about the person in front of you in the present?
We all learn from our pasts and build on them - that's a great thing about life!

Oh God! If I was judged by my ex's I'd be a sad, s...

2009-11-26T12:44:32.991-08:00

Oh God! If I was judged by my ex's I'd be a sad, sad shadow of the Savage that I am....

Happy Turkey Day!

If this is another piece of a troubling puzzle, tr...

2009-11-26T10:22:49.537-08:00

If this is another piece of a troubling puzzle, trust that instinct. If this is an abberation, than consider yourself blessed that you met him at just the right moment. My husband and I would have HATED each other in high school.

It's true your past and the people that surround y...

2009-11-26T07:58:41.488-08:00

It's true your past and the people that surround you say a lot about you as a person... but the trick to happiness is not really caring what people deduce from that. Only care what YOU think!

ha haa. shit. you hit the ball right on the head w...

2009-11-26T03:04:39.660-08:00

ha haa. shit. you hit the ball right on the head with this one.

I have to say- its better than the alternative.......

2009-11-25T21:50:31.549-08:00

I have to say- its better than the alternative.... all the girls my fiance dated before me were blonde with glasses... just like me. Creeps me out a bit. From what I hear, personality wise I'm much different than the others.

OMG....I know EXACTLY what you mean. I found a pi...

2009-11-25T19:10:55.458-08:00

OMG....I know EXACTLY what you mean. I found a picture of a girl my BF lived with, and let's just say we're exact opposites as far as "types" go (she was very attractive, but in a trashy, MTV Beach House sort of way).

My opinion (even though I know it's easy to say from the outside) is not to judge your man too harshly from his previous choices. Lord knows I'VE made poor dating choices, and I'd be upset and hurt if someone held them over my head.

(I have to remind myself of that once in a while)

Writing this post was more a way to initiate a dis...

2009-11-25T15:57:38.118-08:00

Writing this post was more a way to initiate a discussion than a way for me to decide what to do. The decision was already made long ago - I judge a person on their actions.

While so many of you have said we can't judge a person on their past, think about it - doesn't what you learn about a person's past have the potential to influence the light you see them in? That's the question I'm raising here.

So the French floozie is an intriguing yet tiny fact in all that I know about this guy - she's not a deciding factor.

I'm not sure I really get this. I mean, if you are...

2009-11-25T12:29:19.168-08:00

I'm not sure I really get this. I mean, if you are interested in him, what does it matter what his old girlfriend was like? Isn't it more important who he is now?

Thought provoking post! Just discovered your blog...

2009-11-25T11:59:33.782-08:00

Thought provoking post!

Just discovered your blog, and now am a happy follower... keep up the great writing.

Clearly he had a lapse in judgement aka boner. Obv...

2009-11-25T10:05:26.109-08:00

Clearly he had a lapse in judgement aka boner. Obviously he has realized the er of his ways and has transfixed himself on a hottie far more superior... YOU!

Haven't we all chosen some right tulips in our day...

2009-11-25T09:02:26.761-08:00

Haven't we all chosen some right tulips in our day? I wouldn't hold it against him. Thats as long as there are not another three identi-ninnies where she came from?
Once is a mistake, more is a habit. Run.

One thing I recently learned is to trust my instin...

2009-11-25T08:36:50.462-08:00

One thing I recently learned is to trust my instincts. So when you can't get past something that you found out or see now, it is probably something your gut is telling you and you should at least beware that it makes you uncomfortable.
Plus, in my opinion, it say a lot about a mans character if he can date a dumbass just because she has a nice rack and an accent.
Just sayin.

I am completely with you on this one..as in I have...

2009-11-25T08:28:26.158-08:00

I am completely with you on this one..as in I have a hard time letting go of someone's past because I see it as a big red flag.. infact, the last guy I dated had a few red flags in the past that I just couldn't get past so I broke up with him. But since the break up I have realized that I am not going to focus too much on the past and look at the man that is standing in front of me today..

If you eliminate every man who has a brainless hot...

2009-11-25T07:51:56.319-08:00

If you eliminate every man who has a brainless hottie somewhere in his past, what's left is really not appealing.

Equally intriguing is whether or not you'd like to be judged by every man you dated in the past. I know I wouldn't. But I learned about what I didn't like so I could find what I did.

Very interesting point although i think sometimes ...

2009-11-25T07:12:48.918-08:00

Very interesting point although i think sometimes your past relationships hopefully are about shaping you to get better at that stuff. I know there were boyfriend i hurt in the past and I hope i have learnt from it.

Kate x

We all make choices we later don't understand. Unl...

2009-11-25T06:43:20.421-08:00

We all make choices we later don't understand. Unless you have to avoid your moral or ethics to get by it, take it all with a grain of salt.

File them away for future consideration. She has c...

2009-11-25T06:16:07.938-08:00

File them away for future consideration. She has cleavage, men are powerless to cleavage. Their base instincts kick in and their brain function goes south...literally. Don't be too hard on him because of it.

By the way, you are an amazing writer!

People change...a good friend of ours went through...

2009-11-25T05:55:45.558-08:00

People change...a good friend of ours went through a phase like this too and ended up marrying the most amazing, brilliant woman. One French cleave-revealer does not a man make. And blue eyed/black haired Man needed this road to get to you.

And what are we saying about them? Most of the tr...

2009-11-25T05:28:39.053-08:00

And what are we saying about them?

Most of the truths?

You have a nice Thanksgiving!

Secretia

Jesus, no ... You can't evaluate a person on the t...

2009-11-25T01:30:45.157-08:00

Jesus, no ... You can't evaluate a person on the type of people they've dated previously. If everyone thought the way you did I would be in the biggest load of shit. You should evaluate someone on how well they treat you. Do they make you feel respected and worthwhile? I think those are the most important qualities when choosing a mate.

I don't take any past relationships into account. ...

2009-11-24T21:19:25.134-08:00

I don't take any past relationships into account. We all needed the bad boy, the jock, the older man, the artist and guys need their female counterparts. The sum of the parts equals a whole person and the boobies and gouda just got him closer to you.

You crack me up! I have never really thought about...

2009-11-24T20:30:03.373-08:00

You crack me up! I have never really thought about it that way before. You sass-a-frass always open my eyes to see things differently. Hum.... I'll have to now scope out pics of Mr. Fix It's ex's. I know I am wayyyyyyyyyyyy better of a catch than the Hobag prior - that's why I got the big diamond! he he he